Before I was my child’s mama, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my husband’s wife, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my students’ teacher I was Tanika Monique. As a new mom, I find myself thinking about my child constantly and less and less on myself. I felt like I lost myself in taking care of my child that I stopped taking care of myself. I had to pause the other day and remind myself that I MATTER too.
Several years ago I read the above quote in Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I remembered it throughout the years, but it wasn’t until I undertook a project that I envisioned and made a reality this week, that the quote really resonated with me. In January of this year, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to create inspirational artwork to decorate my house. I gave myself the deadline of completing this project by April 2017.
Today is April 15, 2017 and I finished the project on April 12th. I created 5 canvas paintings for my living area and 3 for my bathroom to remind me to stay positive. I learned many lessons about moving from conception of an idea to achievement that I want to share with you.
I love the song Smile by Charlie Chaplin. My favorite version of the song is when Janelle Monaecovered the song. You can be having the worst day of your life, but smiling can help you improve your mood and make you look better. It may not change the circumstances that you are going through, but it can give you a glimmer of hope that things will be alright.
As I mentioned in my Abundance Mentality and Veganism post, I get a lot of questions, concerns, and criticism about what I choose to fuel my body. This got me to thinking about why I choose to eat healthy. Where I work people bring food all the time. I’m often offered foods that I no longer eat such as chocolate, bread, and meat dishes.
I respectfully decline these offers. Sometimes people may ask why I choose not to eat certain things. Being in those situations and writing about veganism inspired me to write about the importance of selectivity.
In my introduction to this series, I stated that I write these lessons for myself, as well as for you. A prayer that I have been saying to God lately is: “Let me be unbothered by the negativity of the people around me, difficult times, and life stressors.”
I often say to Tasha that you have let the negative and difficult things in life roll off you like water–to not let them get to you. In a sense, it is important to be unbothered. By this term, I do not me that you shouldn’t care about or disregard your troubles. What I mean is that you don’t have to react in a negative way to the challenges that you will face on a daily basis.
As you can see, “This is ugly,” is written in big, black letters across this painting. What you don’t see is the other part of the painting, which I cut off and threw in the trash. Several years ago, I was attempting to paint some flowers. Things were not going as planned and the other side of the painting wasactually ugly. I was so fed up, that I wrote those words on the painting.