Before I was my child’s mama, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my husband’s wife, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my students’ teacher I was Tanika Monique. As a new mom, I find myself thinking about my child constantly and less and less on myself. I felt like I lost myself in taking care of my child that I stopped taking care of myself. I had to pause the other day and remind myself that I MATTER too.
Several years ago I read the above quote in Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I remembered it throughout the years, but it wasn’t until I undertook a project that I envisioned and made a reality this week, that the quote really resonated with me. In January of this year, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to create inspirational artwork to decorate my house. I gave myself the deadline of completing this project by April 2017.
Today is April 15, 2017 and I finished the project on April 12th. I created 5 canvas paintings for my living area and 3 for my bathroom to remind me to stay positive. I learned many lessons about moving from conception of an idea to achievement that I want to share with you.
Today as I was walking down the street, I started thinking about all the things I still needed to do. I started feeling overwhelmed thinking about my to do list. Then it dawned on me, “there is a blessing in everyday.” As I said this to myself, my eyes welled up with tears because I knew this was true. I may not be able to do all the things I think I need to do today. But God woke me up this morning; I have family who loves me; I love myself; I’m gainfully employed; I have a roof over my head.
Don’t get so drowned in your perceived problems that you are blinded to the blessings in this moment. Everyday you are alive is a blessing. The problems you have are blessings and opportunities to learn, grow, and become a better version of yourself.
This is a short and sweet message, but I hope it adds value to your life. I still have a ton of things to do, but it was important for me to write this message for myself and for you.
Stay blessed, KNOW THAT YOU ARE BLESSED, and See the blessings around you.
I love the song Smile by Charlie Chaplin. My favorite version of the song is when Janelle Monaecovered the song. You can be having the worst day of your life, but smiling can help you improve your mood and make you look better. It may not change the circumstances that you are going through, but it can give you a glimmer of hope that things will be alright.
When my twin sister and I began running in September of last year, I was initially paralyzed by fear. In my minds eye, I still saw myself as an obese teenager, who could barely run a mile without stopping.
One day while we were running, and I felt like giving up, Tasha looked back at me and yelled , “Keep going, you can do it!” I began to cry when she uttered those words because I knew she was right. It was at that moment that I looked at myself with new eyes.
As I mentioned in my Abundance Mentality and Veganism post, I get a lot of questions, concerns, and criticism about what I choose to fuel my body. This got me to thinking about why I choose to eat healthy. Where I work people bring food all the time. I’m often offered foods that I no longer eat such as chocolate, bread, and meat dishes.
I respectfully decline these offers. Sometimes people may ask why I choose not to eat certain things. Being in those situations and writing about veganism inspired me to write about the importance of selectivity.
I’m running down the street with my twin sister, thinking to myself “Tanika, you can do this. Just try to keep up with Tasha.” For a good 5 minutes we are able to run at the same pace. Once we are heading over a bridge, we separate. We continue to run and eventually Tasha is at least a block ahead of me. It is at this point that I no longer try to maintain her pace.
Instead, I tell myself, “Come on Tanika, just keep moving. Don’t stop. Keep running until you make it home.” This experience inspired me to write this post. When we were in high school, Tasha was on the cross-country team and did long distance running on our track team. I on the other hand did shotput and discus for all 4 years. I also was diagnosed with arthritis at age 17 and had to overcome my fear of running.What is my point?