Before I was my child’s mama, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my husband’s wife, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my students’ teacher I was Tanika Monique. As a new mom, I find myself thinking about my child constantly and less and less on myself. I felt like I lost myself in taking care of my child that I stopped taking care of myself. I had to pause the other day and remind myself that I MATTER too.
Several years ago I read the above quote in Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I remembered it throughout the years, but it wasn’t until I undertook a project that I envisioned and made a reality this week, that the quote really resonated with me. In January of this year, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to create inspirational artwork to decorate my house. I gave myself the deadline of completing this project by April 2017.
Today is April 15, 2017 and I finished the project on April 12th. I created 5 canvas paintings for my living area and 3 for my bathroom to remind me to stay positive. I learned many lessons about moving from conception of an idea to achievement that I want to share with you.
Today is Valentine’s Day, a day to show love to the people in your life. It’s a day to let people know how much you care for them. This is the mentality of many people. Valentine’s Day in reality is just a day–one of 365 or 366 days of the year to express the love you have for the people in your life. Just like you wouldn’t want to wait until a funeral to tell someone you love them, don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to do so.
On this special day I want to express gratitude for the man who shows me love on a daily basis–my husband Sheriffo. He has made me feel extremely loved, honored and respected every day that we have been together.
He prays for me, encourages me, teaches me new things, helps me sharpen pencils and grade papers at night. As a busy teacher and wife when I accomplish a portion of the many things on my to do list, he is proud of me.
If you are not in a relationship, I pray that you can find someone to treat you the way my husband treats me. Here are just some of the ways you can express love on a daily basis.
Ways to show love everyday:
Say I love you
Help with the laundry
Cook dinner for your spouse
Wash the dishes after your spouse has cooked dinner
Pray for and with your spouse
Encourage him/her to achieve his or her goals
Have fun together
Surprise your loved one with his/her favorite thing
Eat dinner together without distractions
Celebrate the small victories with your significant other
Go on date nights a few times a month
Of course there are plenty of ways to express love and gratitude to your significant others. I don’t have all the answers. This post is dedicated to my beautiful husband Sheriffo. I love you always and forever on this day and everyday thereafter!
Today as I was walking down the street, I started thinking about all the things I still needed to do. I started feeling overwhelmed thinking about my to do list. Then it dawned on me, “there is a blessing in everyday.” As I said this to myself, my eyes welled up with tears because I knew this was true. I may not be able to do all the things I think I need to do today. But God woke me up this morning; I have family who loves me; I love myself; I’m gainfully employed; I have a roof over my head.
Don’t get so drowned in your perceived problems that you are blinded to the blessings in this moment. Everyday you are alive is a blessing. The problems you have are blessings and opportunities to learn, grow, and become a better version of yourself.
This is a short and sweet message, but I hope it adds value to your life. I still have a ton of things to do, but it was important for me to write this message for myself and for you.
Stay blessed, KNOW THAT YOU ARE BLESSED, and See the blessings around you.
I was having a discussion with my sister yesterday that inspired me to write this post. I thought I made the term GODFIDENCE up, until I looked it up a few minutes ago. Anyway, I hope I can help inspire you to stay encouraged and have faith in God even when things are challenging in your life.
Often we are guilty of saying we trust God, but we actually don’t. Yesterday, I found myself worrying and stressing about a personal matter. I was filled with anxiety. Then I thought to myself, have GODFIDENCE. Confidence that God is working on my behalf. Whatever problems I have, God already has the solution.
According to tagdef.com, GODFIDENCE is “A feeling or consciousness of God’s powers or reliance on God’s promises; also the faith or belief that God will act in a right , proper or effective way.”
I really had to ask myself, do I trust that God will fulfill his promise to be there for me in my time of need? Do I really believe that the answers to all my prayers were on their way? By all the worrying I was doing, you would think that I didn’t.
So I had to think, when has God failed me? The answer: NEVER. He hasn’t come when I wanted him to, but he’s always come right on time. Every problem that I’ve had, God has solved. When I look back on my life and think about everything I’ve been through, I know it was nothing but God that carried me through. I wouldn’t have made it this far without him.
So I challenge you to really take an honest look at your life. Look back at all the instances where God has come through right in the knick of time. Think about the current problems you are facing; do you have GODFIDENCE or not?
I don’t know what you are going through, but I know that with God you will get through it.
Be encouraged! Have GODFIDENCE!
Always & Forever
I love the song Smile by Charlie Chaplin. My favorite version of the song is when Janelle Monaecovered the song. You can be having the worst day of your life, but smiling can help you improve your mood and make you look better. It may not change the circumstances that you are going through, but it can give you a glimmer of hope that things will be alright.
Today is our 28th birthday. I thought it would be befitting to publish this post as I enter a new year in my life. This year I have been challenging myself to do things that I have been afraid to do. Through my journey I have learned so much and want to share my lessons with you. A big takeaway that I have is that the things you fear can fuel you to change your life for the better. Doing things I fear have allowed me to see build my self-confidence and let go of previous limiting beliefs.
Several of my fears I worked towards overcoming since the beginning of 2015. And I admit, I’m a little afraid to share those fears with you, but I have decided to do so in the hopes that I can help someone.