Have you ever envisioned accomplishing a goal? Every detail was in your mind’s eye. In reality, you accomplished your goal, but it didn’t look like how you pictured it. I certainly have. This is why I think we need to abandon the vision. We have to let go of the picture we have in our minds and be open to all the ways we can accomplish our goals.
I’ve been wanting to write this lesson for many years, but this lesson really applied to my life within the past few weeks. I have always wanted to be a mother and by the grace of God I can say that I am. In my mind I wanted to have a natural birth and to exclusively breastfeed. Well guess what? God had other plans for me.
My labor and delivery and my feeding methods were not what I wanted or expected. BUT I still get the same results:a healthy baby MashaAllah. Instead of being upset everyday because things didn’t go as planned, I had to abandon my vision of how I wanted things to be. I had to focus on the results instead.
I don’t know what you are going through or what your goals are. But I do know that there are many ways you can work towards achieving your goals. Focus on the end result and be open to all the possible ways of getting there.
In my last blog post, Lesson #19: If You Can Conceive it, You Can Achieve It , I shared with you some of the paintings that I created to decorate my home. One of the reasons I was so determined to create them was so that I could remind myself to remain positive. A while ago, I found myself watching news videos about horrid crimes. I had to take a pause and say, “Hold up Tanika, what are you doing?” It’s good to be informed about what’s going on in the world. However, to constantly subject myself to every story about killings, stabbings, and shootings was bad for my mental health. With all the negativity that is going on in the world it’s important to surround yourself with positivity.
I’m not an expert on positivity, but I have learned and incorporated several things in my life that have helped me to feel more optimistic. I want to share with you some of the things I do to help me feel motivated and inspired.
Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you.
Buy or create artwork that is inspirational. In every room of my house I have artwork with motivational messages. In my previous post, I shared with you the paintings in my living room and bathroom. My shower curtain also has the message “positive vibes only.” I also like putting prayers and affirmations on my front door, so I can say them when I leave the house.
Download affirmation apps
Watch and listen to things that uplift you
Make a daily gratitude list
Do something daily that makes you feel good—dance, watch your favorite show, cook a delicious meal etc.
If you are religious, read your holy book.
What are some things you do to stay positive? Comment below.
Before I was my child’s mama, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my husband’s wife, I was Tanika Monique. Before I was my students’ teacher I was Tanika Monique. As a new mom, I find myself thinking about my child constantly and less and less on myself. I felt like I lost myself in taking care of my child that I stopped taking care of myself. I had to pause the other day and remind myself that I MATTER too.
All of my recipes come when I have a few ingredients that I need to use before they go bad. I had some week old potatoes, cans of chickpeas, and some frozen cauliflower. So I decided to make this recipe. Please note that I didn’t measure anything for this recipe. Use as much or as little of each ingredient as you like. I made a huge pot of this chickpea potato curry so I wouldn’t have to cook for the week. So if you are having a dinner party or like to meal prep, this is a recipe you surely will love! Here are the ingredients that you need:Continue reading
I recently made this delicious pasta salad that I want to share with you. Like a lot of my recipes, I made a huge batch of this southwestern pasta salad so that we won’t have to cook for most of the week. You can adjust the portions to the amount of pasta salad you need. Here are the ingredients you will need:
Several years ago I read the above quote in Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I remembered it throughout the years, but it wasn’t until I undertook a project that I envisioned and made a reality this week, that the quote really resonated with me. In January of this year, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to create inspirational artwork to decorate my house. I gave myself the deadline of completing this project by April 2017.
Today is April 15, 2017 and I finished the project on April 12th. I created 5 canvas paintings for my living area and 3 for my bathroom to remind me to stay positive. I learned many lessons about moving from conception of an idea to achievement that I want to share with you.
Today is Valentine’s Day, a day to show love to the people in your life. It’s a day to let people know how much you care for them. This is the mentality of many people. Valentine’s Day in reality is just a day–one of 365 or 366 days of the year to express the love you have for the people in your life. Just like you wouldn’t want to wait until a funeral to tell someone you love them, don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to do so.
On this special day I want to express gratitude for the man who shows me love on a daily basis–my husband Sheriffo. He has made me feel extremely loved, honored and respected every day that we have been together.
He prays for me, encourages me, teaches me new things, helps me sharpen pencils and grade papers at night. As a busy teacher and wife when I accomplish a portion of the many things on my to do list, he is proud of me.
If you are not in a relationship, I pray that you can find someone to treat you the way my husband treats me. Here are just some of the ways you can express love on a daily basis.
Ways to show love everyday:
Say I love you
Help with the laundry
Cook dinner for your spouse
Wash the dishes after your spouse has cooked dinner
Pray for and with your spouse
Encourage him/her to achieve his or her goals
Have fun together
Surprise your loved one with his/her favorite thing
Eat dinner together without distractions
Celebrate the small victories with your significant other
Go on date nights a few times a month
Of course there are plenty of ways to express love and gratitude to your significant others. I don’t have all the answers. This post is dedicated to my beautiful husband Sheriffo. I love you always and forever on this day and everyday thereafter!