Lesson #11: We Are All Human


I mentioned before that we can be so consumed with social media stars and celebrities. We may praise them and assume that their lives are much better than our own.  In addition to the comments of praise on Facebook posts, Instagram pics, and YouTube videos there are numerous hateful remarks.  For every, “You are so beautiful!” comment, there are 10 remarks picking the person apart.

I watched a video clip of The Real a little over week ago in which the ladies were discussing bullying.  It saddened me to hear how co-hosts Jeannie Mai and Tamar Braxton were still very traumatized by the negativity they get on a daily basis.  To know that their feelings get hurt by the things others say, reminded me that we are all human. Celebrities and people who are “social media” famous go through the same issues the rest of us experience.  The only difference is there is a camera on them.  People feel the need to make comments on how others live simply because they “put themselves out there.”

Public figures do put themselves out there.  However, I think they deserve the same respect as anyone else.  Bullies can hide behind a screen name, with no profile picture, and spew out hatred to others, because deep down they really hate themselves. If you would say those mean and nasty things to your best friend or say it to their face, then don’t say it at all.


You can’t give what you don’t have.  If someone is being extremely mean and rude to you, I guarantee you that their self-talk is negative.  You can’t show love and kindness to others if you don’t treat yourself that way.  It was only when I started to improve my relationship with myself that I was able to treat others in a more loving and kind manner. Once I started loving me, then I was able to send love to others.


The people you see in movies, magazines, YouTube videos, and Instagram photos are not perfect.  Don’t worship them or spew out hate towards them.  If they inspire you great. Use whatever you learn from them as a catalyst to better your life.  If you feel jealous of what they have, realize that you too can create the life you want.  There is a unique, God given purpose for your life.  Work on you, love yourself, and the blessing that has your name on it will come your way.

You can’t star in your own life if you are so obsessed with the lives of another or if you are spreading negativity everywhere you go. 

I hope this message touches you and can serve as a reminder that you are a uniquely, beautiful creation who deserves the best that life has to offer.  Know that no matter how much negativity others may try to infuse into your life, love yourself and know that God loves you.  

Love Always,

Tanika Monique

Always & Forever

Forever & Always



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