It’s All an Illusion: The Rise of the Social Media Star


I love watching “beauty gurus” on YouTube. Occasionally I’ll watch family vlogging channels as well. A common trend that I’ve noticed in the comment section is that a lot of viewers think these people have perfect lives. Some examples of comments are:

  • “Your baby is the the cutest, smartest baby on YouTube.”
  • “I love your family, you guys give me life.”
  • “You are so perfect.”

I think it’s all well and good to get inspiration from the people we see on various social media sites. It becomes a problem when we begin to put them on a pedestal and believe that they don’t have issues, fears, insecurities, and problems, just like the rest of us.

When we see someone post a video on YouTube, or share pictures on Instagram and Facebook, we don’t see the number times they filmed the video or how many selfies they took to get the perfect shot. We don’t know how much effort and hard work it took to produce content, film and edit their videos. All we see is the finished product. What we fail to realize is that when people put their lives on social media, they control the image they put out there. You can edit out the boring aspects of your life in a video or enhance a photo before posting.

A majority of the time people post highlights of their lives online. They don’t show the argument with their significant other, their child acting a fool in Walmart, or the times when they feel depressed.

So before we start idolizing people on the internet, keep this quote in mind: “Don’t compare your behind the scenes with someone’s highlight reel.”

A couple of weeks ago, I watched this video by Andrea Lewis entitled: Be the Star of Your Own Life.

In the video she talks about making your dreams a reality. She paraphrased a quote from Marianne Williamson‘s popular book, A Return to Love: “we are so obsessed with celebrity culture because we aren’t starring in our own lives.”

When she said this, I could immediately relate. I admit that I can get caught up sometimes with pop culture. One of my goals for 2015 is to live my dreams instead of watching other people live. Some action steps that I’ve taken to do that are producing content for this blog and presenting workshops at various conferences.

 You are talented, worthy, and beautiful. Don’t compare yourself to others or think that other people have it made. Take charge of your life and work towards being the star in your life. You deserve it.

What action steps have you taken to live your dreams? In what ways are you starring in your life? Comment below. 

Love Always,

Tanika Monique

Always & Forever

Forever & Always

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